Baby Roll Naming Poll #3

Hi Everyone!

My husband and I just found out we are having a little girl! We already have two boys, Miles Declan (6) and Marshall Owen (4). Husband is Matt and I am Maura, so we are planning to continue the M name theme. We have two girl names that we have loved for years and they both have personal meaning for us, but we need help deciding between them! The names are Molly and Matilda. We will pair one of these names with either Bernadette or Josephine as a middle name. 

So the choices are:

Molly Bernadette

Molly Josephine

Matilda Bernadette

Matilda Josephine

 

Reasons for each of these names:

Molly was originally used predominantly as a nickname for Mary. My name (Maura) and my mom's name (Maureen) are both Irish variations of the name Mary, so I think it would be neat to continue in this vein (plus Molly also has an Irish flair). We did something similar for our first born son, where both dad and grandpa (on his side) and now our Miles have names that start with M and then use the middle name Declan. It's such a fun way to honor family through the generations. I know there are some negative connotations to the name Molly, but I don't care about that at all.

Matilda is such a sweet name in my opinion, and I love the German and Scandinavian association with it since I am not only Irish but also German and Swedish. In fact, my Swedish great great grandmother had this name! My husband originally suggested Molly after Star Trek's Miles O'Brien's daughter (we are both huge Trek fans). He still likes Molly, but now he seems to maybe prefer Matilda (this one was my suggestion). There are lots of nicknames for Matilda, including Mattie (cute because my husband is Matt) and Tilly (which also has a Star Trek association from the new series, Discovery). We could maybe even use Molly as a nickname since it is already used for so many other M names, but it might be a bit of a stretch.

I really truly love both of these names equally, and my husband is leaving the decision up to me since he is happy with either. But how can I decide?! I might just have to wait until babe is here to see what suits her better. 

As for middle names, they are both family names, though I think I prefer Bernadette a bit more. I just feel that Bernadette goes better with Molly than Matilda, and I don't want that to sway my decision on first name. The other thing is that we may adopt a little girl in the future (maybe 4-5 years down the line). We will use the other first and middle name for her, but part of me wants to keep Molly Bernadette and Matilda Josephine as the two distinct names. But what if we never end up adopting? This is a possibility for financial and other reasons even though we would really like to. Regardless, we have a little girl set to arrive in April, and we will need a name for her soon.

Please let me know your thoughts! And thank you so much for your help!!

-M&M's

Replies

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October 8, 2019 2:41 PM

Sorry for the multiple posts - I was having issues with Captcha and apparently this resulted in the redundant posts. Please reply to this one. Thanks!! :)

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October 8, 2019 3:24 PM

Maybe Molly Bernadette, by a minuscule margin. But I think you could do Matilda Bernadette too. Are you pronouncing it BER-na-dette or Ber-na-DETTE? That might change the flow with Matilda, and possibly your last name too.  

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October 8, 2019 4:57 PM

I like Matilda Josephine best but Molly Josephine would be good too,  both great names and family connection.  Molly Josephine has goes better with the sibset and a stronger family connection.  Maybe see how you feel after the birth and meeting her

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October 8, 2019 5:25 PM

I don't think this is one that can be settled by the votes of internet strangers!  You're going to have to meet her and go with your gut.  I do get the impression that you would more regret never using Molly.

 

Molly is a bit of a stretch as a nickname for Matilda, but you could definitely use Milly.  That rules out Molly for any future sister though!

Matilda Bernadette feels heavy/clunky in comparison to Molly Josephine, so I agree with your inclination to match them up the other way around.

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October 8, 2019 8:11 PM

Thanks so much, this has really helped. You might be right about potential naming regret with not using Molly. I hesitate to say that I am leaning more towards Molly, but I think I am simply because of the family connection. I will still regret not using Matilda though, so I think it will come down to which name I will regret not using more and/or which feels like a better fit when I meet her. Thanks for this perspective.

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October 8, 2019 8:06 PM

Thank you so much everyone! Based on my gut and your input, I feel like I have two really good names here, and as much as I just want to decide now, I think I agree with mollycatherine that I will just have to wait to meet her. Thanks again :)

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October 9, 2019 12:27 PM

I think your plan to wait and see how you feel after you meet her makes sense. In the meantime, listing all of the things you love about each name can sometimes help clarify things--you can keep a running tally, and if a new plus comes up add it to the appropriate list.

As far as "saving" a name for the future, I would suggest not worrying about that too much--many folks find that their taste in names changes over the years, and adoption entails additional naming considerations that may affect your decision (chiefly how and whether to honor the child's own heritage and/or birth name).

On a related note, I don't know how you feel about internal alliteration, but I have to say Molly Matilda is charming to my ear.